|Event: Loved One Abusing Drugs or Alcohol. Loved One Gets Into Legal Trouble
||Outcome: Anger & Hatred
Understanding: We come to believe that addiction is a medical condition like diabetes or cancer. The person probably wouldn't get into trouble if they were sober and clean. We don't condone their actions, but we understand to separate the disease from the person. Are you constantly picking at this person? Maybe they deserve it sometimes, but backing off may help the relationship. We believe that with a little attitude shift and education on your part can help the situation.
|Event: Blaming Someone for a Mental Illness
||Outcome: Constant Friction & Arguing—Why Can't They Just Behave Better?
Understanding: Millions suffer from a mental illness and there are many symptoms. You would be more forgiving with a cancer survivor and their symptoms. You need to get more understanding and education that mental illness like depression and anxiety has their own medical symptoms. Consider backing off a little from a mental illness sufferer.
|Event: Your Relationship or Friendship Ended
||Outcome: Fighting Caused Relationship to Break Up
Understanding: Often there are hidden reasons why relationships break up. Hidden jealousy, resentment, poor communication, and control issues are the primary causes. Working to understand your behaviors and your partner's shoes can help you reconnect.